Religious Trauma & Cult Recovery Blog

Have you noticed in yourself a tendency to minimize your own needs? To not cause a fuss and keep the peace at all costs? These may be reflections of one of codependency’s main symptoms: self-betrayal. 

Signs you might be in a pattern of self-betrayal include:

• Saying “yes”...

I get the common question: where does codependency start? Simply put: it begins when a child grows up in intense, unpredictable, or chaotic environments. 

The term was originally born in the substance abuse community to describe children of alcoholics or addicts. Because the environment...

Codependent folks are hard workers. When you learn that you have a tricky relational dynamic, your instinct to work hard to change those patterns kicks into high gear. You were already tired before you started the healing journey, and that’s likely how you discovered codependency; by...

When someone first learns about the idea of codependency, they can fall in to a panic around collecting information about how to stop these exhausting and toxic dynamics. But, for all the research that is out there, you might come across some myths that aren’t actually true about...

Oh the dreaded people-pleasing. I know, it can be a tough pill to swallow to be described as a people-pleaser. Oftentimes we finally come to this realization when we acknowledge our exhaustion, overwhelm, and find ourselves having a hard time asserting our boundaries. 

Does that sound like...

If you are here, it’s likely you’ve read a list of symptoms identifying you as a people-pleaser or someone has used this phrase to describe you. If this is a new revelation for you, you might be frantically on the hunt to know how the heck to overcome these people-pleasing tendencies....